A couple of weeks ago, a mom whom I had the pleasure of working with years ago, wrote me about her daughter being bullied, and how she remembered the skills and the Hand in Hand tools she had learned in our class, and was able to handle it with tremendous insight and grace, thanks to this different way of thinking about parenting and our kids' behavior.
At first she found herself doing what so many of us do - something I call "behavior chasing." Her daughter had developed this habit of screaming a lot and she just wanted it to STOP.
Until she remembered... the behavior is just a marker.
A signal. A communication of a deeper need. She shifted her focus, and found the answers her family needed.
So here you go, in Nina's own words...