There are moments where I feel I just need to reach out and say thanks because tonight could have been different.
It could have been yelling, screaming and tears.
Instead it was calm, 1 kid sleeping, 1 kid not. It was not perfect, but I was prepared for it not to be. I still went out to spend time with moms on my street (which I may not have made a priority in the past, but value checked myself and said yes I’m doing this even if kids are awake because I value myself as a mom. When it got hard tonight, I kept value checking myself, which made all the difference. THANK YOU.
I could not have been in the mind space to create what happened without your wisdom and the stories you share. You transformed parenting with connection into something tangible with all its ups and downs. THANK YOU.
Before I started working with Abigail, there was yelling in the house. A lot. And then there was shame and frustration because I hated the fact that I lost my cool.
Since working with Abigail, there's been a huge shift in my life. I have tools I can use and, when I find myself slipping back into old habits, I have Abigail. She is one of the most intuitive people I have ever met. She cuts through all the fog and zeros in on whether a situation has been caused by a parenting issue, or maybe a personal issue that is manifesting itself in parenting. Having Abigail means I have someone in my corner who can help me, and help me in a way that makes me feel good about myself and the family life I am creating.
My relationship with my son was a mess. I could not get him to do much of anything and affection from him was minimal. He was angry and cranky. Working with Abigail has been super helpful. Now, when he starts to see ‘Meany Mommy’ come out, he comes and gives me a hug and tells me, this is what you need!! He says I love you and draws pictures for me again. This has deepened our relationship. I can now stop my craziness and really be with him. For my very emotional daughter, the tools Abigail taught me have given me a way to be with her while not giving in to her every want. She tells me that she trusts me and it shows with the things she shares. I am so grateful to this work for what it has given us. All huge wins in my mind. :)
I came to Abigail broken and scared. So scared I was irrevocably messing up my most pressing and important role: being a mom. I was constantly annoyed and pushed to my edge. I had a hair-trigger and my son and I were moving further and further away from each other. And I wasn’t the mom I wanted to be. I had so much love for my family and I was afraid they couldn’t feel any of it. If you have a chance to meet/talk with/ learn from Abigail, you should grab hold with both hands. She is so bright, so thoughtful, so creative, so intuitive, so funny, so darn reasonable; her mind-flips WORK. Her ideology WORKS. I am filled with giddiness daily now, ESPECIALLY when things are tricky with my children, because I can now welcome whatever is happening in my family as information. And I’m now the scientist in my home who gets to figure all of it out. I’m an eagle-eye, I’m the leader of my family, I’m building the people I want to send out into the world. My family is a team now. My son is my ally. And I’m honestly so proud of myself, of the work I’ve done, of the person I’ve become. I’m the mom I always wanted to be. Not perfect, but whole. Thank you, Abigail, for righting my ship.