The Mother Flipping Awesome Podcast
Season 4, The Before & After Series;
Episode 4: From Overwhelm to Confidence,
In this special series, Abigail focuses on what transformation really looks like for the families she mentors.
In this episode, we meet Prema, a mom who felt overwhelmed by her son's powerful personality and intense physicality. Little by little she learned the tools to be able to see him in a new light, and then also grew herself into a confident leader capable of guiding him well. Not only has this work transformed her personal life, it has touched every other area of her life now as well!
This week Abigail speaks with Prema, a mom who felt like her softer personality was no match for her eldest child's strong will. Together we talk about what it's like to raise these intense, highly-sensitive kids, and we explore what is possible for us parents when we learn how to truly rise to the challenge.
2:00 Let's meet Prema and learn about why she felt called to work with Abigail.
4:00 In the beginning, Prema's strong-willed, active son had her feeling overwhelmed. She was on a search for help.
5:48 Abigail shares that she felt so lonely in the first few years of parenting.
8:30 Prema talks about feelings of shame in her early parenting years.
9:45 Abigail explains what it means to "see the rightness in the wrongness" of the behavior in strong-willed or highly sensitive kids.
11:00 Prema helps support the MFA community and especially loves listening to everyone's shared stories.
12:15 Prema shares a story about her son taking a messy bath and how she handled this frustrating moment.
15:30 Abigail breaks down Prema's story and explains the parental twists and turns in it.
17:20 Prema talks about how she can now bridge over to her son and how he has taught her a lot about otherness.
18:40 Abigail talks about the kids that are so different from us that they don't fit into our ideas of what we wanted from parenting.
21:15 Prema shares how she struggled to connect to her son, because he felt so different, and didn't like the things she liked.
24:50 Abigail explains why she likes to look at parenting as if it were a math problem.
28:17 Prema shares a recent win they had in regards to her son's insatiable desire for Legos.
33:00 Abigail and Prema talk about how to deal with super physical kids.
35:40 What authentic, coherent parenting looks and feels like. Also, what it looks like to feel deep gratitude for our challenging kids, who challenge us to be better people.
38:00 Optimizing your life is so great it can be addictive. Bring on the dopamine!!!