The Mother Flipping Awesome Podcast
Season 3, Episode 11:
Building Back After Betrayal
On this episode, Abigail interviews...
Today I am speaking with Dr. Debi Silber, holistic psychologist and founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. Debi is an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals. She is the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. A two time TEDx speaker, Debi has also been featured on FOX, CBS, and The Dr. Oz Show.
This week I speak with Dr. Debi Silber about why betrayal is different from other kinds of trauma, and how we can build our lives back after a betrayal has shaken our foundations. She also shares with us her own personal story of divorcing and later remarrying the same man, and how she and her kids made it through better than ever.
2.00 Introduction to Debi Silber.
3:00 Abigail shares that trauma is a complicated concept.
6:30 Our reticular activating system, and how our brains notice what we tell them to.
7:30 Debi shares the very personal reason she became interested in betrayal, and ended up studying it.
9:45 Debi's discovery of how betrayal is different from trauma.
11:00 Debi tells the story of her first stage of betrayal, and the aftershock of what happened in her family.
14:30 Debi's choice to be completely honest with her kids about what was happening.
18:00 Sometimes people cheat because they have built a life that is not true to them.
20:30 Taking what you loved and leaving behind what no longer serves you from a situation.
24:00 Debi's decision to share her healing process with others.
26:30 The five stages of betrayal.
36:00 Being willing to make mistakes with the ones you love.