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25 ways parenting has reinvented you — and one way you can reinvent it back. :) empowerment Oct 27, 2022

First you were you. 

Then you were a parent.

Same you...

But different:

1. sleep schedule

2. priorities

3. friends

4. sex/dating life

5. hip width

6. relationship to your in-laws

7. relationship to your own parents

8. frequency with which you lose your temper 

9. working memory capacity...

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Happy "Emotional Labor" Day empowerment Sep 06, 2022

Today was Labor Day in the U.S.

And while all jobs everywhere deserve to be honored, perhaps none deserve to be recognized more than the job of parenting. 

It is the silent job that so many of us do in the background of our "real jobs." It's the one we don't get paid for, that has no...

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Struggle to hold boundaries, feel respected, and get heard? empowerment Aug 27, 2022

A couple of years ago, a mom came to me, practically crying because she so badly wanted her kids to simply bring their cups to the sink

We had an amazing conversation about this that had absolutely nothing to do with the cups or the sink. 

I am going to take a guess...

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Your job in each phase of parenthood growth mindset Aug 10, 2022

Have you ever noticed that when you travel somewhere for the first time, the road can seem long and confusing, but then the second time it doesn't seem that way at all? That's because you have markers along the way. You know what to expect and you can gauge your needs accordingly. 

Well,...

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Is your home full of little ducklings, or wolf pups? strong will Jul 30, 2022

SOME KIDS ARE GENUINELY HARDER.

Why is it so hard for us to admit that, both on a personal and societal level?

I think it is because we have confused "hard" with "bad."

These kids aren't bad. They're glorious. They're just not easy "do it because I said so" kids.

How do you know if you...

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Can we all agree to disagree? empowerment Jul 23, 2022

I saw this post from Adam Grant on Instagram this week and it made my heart happy:

It also reminded me of a school project I heard about once, where the 5th graders had to argue all sides of an argument between a nature conservancy and a logging company. They had to take turns...

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Extraordinary children require extraordinary love.  rise Jul 14, 2022

My first child put me through a lot, but you should know, my first "child" was not human. 

He was a feral husky mix.

In the end, I gave that dog everything, and he gave me more. 

He gave me the gift of knowing that my love had the power to heal: him, me,...

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The real reason parenting exhausts you. HINT: It's not because it's tiring. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ Jun 30, 2022

It's no secret that parenting can be exhausting. 

All the caretaking. All the bicker-brokering. All the driving. 

But while all of those can be tiring, they are not what exhaust you. 

 Here is what actually exhausts you:

The worry - You lie awake at night wondering if you are...

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What I used to wonder about my mom. Until I became one myself. Jun 16, 2022

I remember as a kid looking at my mom and thinking “Why is she hurting so much?” Then I grew up and found out. Grown-up life could be genuinely hard. I could love my kids massively and still sometimes hate parenting them.  

But now that it was my turn, I found I simply could...

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Uvalde. How did we get here? And where are we going? May 31, 2022

This is not a post about guns or death. 

This is a post about life. About what it means to bring people into the world and raise them, and the contract of safety that we are forced to rely upon when we put them out into society.

Too many things now threaten the assumed safety of that social...

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Two words that perfectly describe "parenting." Apr 17, 2022

I remember before I became a parent, I asked a close friend with twins to tell me more about what his experience was really like. He paused and thought for a moment and summed it up in one word:

"Relentless."

Wow, I thought. Really?? / What does that even mean/ And is it that bad?

And while my...

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Why I cried over an egg... overwhelm Jan 27, 2022

I cried over an egg the other day. 

Well, there was a bit more to it actually.

In fact, there was so much to it I sat down and wrote a poem after it happened. 

 Read my poem right here and see if you can relate.

Luckily while I felt a bit alone in my kitchen at that moment, in my...

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